Your Work: As a business woman you may view your most important work as growing a healthy business. Developing and improving your business by providing goods or services that enhance people’s lives can be your highest value and greatest passion. It is often through your business that you realize your fullest powers of invention, creation, and productivity. Such a feeling of fulfillment makes you happy, and that happiness can energize you for all your other goals.
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Raising Children: If you are a business woman with children, raising healthy children is a very high value as well. You want to be a great mother for your children, and you want to enable them to find the kind of fulfillment you have found through your work. By doing it yourself, you show your children that it’s possible.
Many of the best business women have children. They are forced to be super-efficient with their time, money and energy – and to develop the ability to focus clearly on the task at hand. They learn how to prioritize their resources and make the best of them. In the true story, Belles On Their Toes, two grown children write how their widowed mother ran her husband’s business while raising twelve children in a most remarkable and creative way.
Contrary to popular opinion, many business women make the best moms. Because they appreciate the working world that their children are going to someday face, they are able to help their children develop the skills for creative ventures of their own. And because business women know how to stay on task – and avoid scattering themselves with less important distractions – they are able to teach their children to be more purposeful in setting their goals. Business women appreciate that they don’t have as much time with their children – so they are extra careful that the time they do spend together is high-quality time.
Personal Goals: You also have personal goals that you value highly. Health, hobbies, romance, relationships with family and friends, social issues and recreation can be exceedingly important to you. Nurturing and maintaining your own good health makes it possible to pursue your other goals. It also sets a good example for your loved ones. Having business and personal goals shows the other people in your life that you, too, are a person in your own right. Instead of seeing you as just a facilitator for their needs, your loved ones see you as someone to admire and respect. By going after your own goals with confidence and joy, you encourage and inspire them to go after their’s.
Conflict and Guilt: How do you do justice to all these values? How do you decide when to do what? How do you choose what is most important at any given time? If you are a mother, how do your prevent yourself from allowing other people to make you feel guilty for being passionate about your business?
To make wise choices and decisions, every human being needs a guide or a set of principles to live by. That’s why philosophies, religions, ethical codes and moralities are born. I call these guides “Recipes For Living.”
We all grow up with some kind of guide passed down to us from our parents, preachers and teachers – and our culture in general. Just listen to the media or the words of the songs people like! You end up with a set of unexamined childhood beliefs that you bring into your adulthood and try to live by. And you, in turn, pass these teachings and preachings on to your own children.
The trouble is, your childhood beliefs are usually a grab-bag of contradictory teachings. This results in a Recipe For Living that is full of incompatible ingredients – which causes you all sorts of conflict, confusion and guilt. Your goals seem to butt heads against each other and your life becomes a series of apologies as you compromise one goal after another.
A healthy Recipe For Living is your greatest asset in life. There are so many do’s and don’ts, so many mixed messages, and so many choices in life. That’s why you need a healthy Recipe For Living – a reliable, non-contradictory way to view the world, yourself and others – and a trustworthy way to make wise everyday decisions for your life.
Most people don’t realize that they can adjust their Recipe – or they may not know a sensible way to go about doing it.
Buckle your seatbelt! In my CD Program, 8 Steps For Reclaiming Your Life from Conflict, Confusion and the Control of Others, two working women take you through the actual process of uncovering the deep-down beliefs that are the ingredients for your own personal Recipe For Living. You will discover WHAT MAKES YOU TICK for perhaps the very first time! Then you will see how to adjust your Recipe to make it a dependable guide for making wise choices for your life — and how to use your adjusted Recipe in different situations so you can go after your goals guilt free, with full confidence and joy.
My upcoming book, This Is Your Life: No Apology Needed, will show you how to feel more at home with the world, yourself, and others by revising the incompatible ingredients in your Recipe For Living. You will discover how to avoid the MAJOR LIFE-THREATENING MISTAKES working women make, you will see how to HANDLE CRITICISM WITH EASE AND GOOD WILL, and you will gain the confidence to go after your self-chosen goals while helping your children go after theirs.
The resources at Working Woman’s Webquarters are designed to help you build confidence in yourself by discovering the bottom-line keys to success and true happiness. If you need any assistance, I am here for you. Feel free to take advantage of your free half-hour coaching session and other coaching as needed.
The time to stop apologizing and start living is now. Allow yourself to enjoy thinking more clearly – and allow yourself to go after your goals with the enthusiasm and delight of the child that is still inside you!