Do you believe that others automatically know better than you? When you want to know something, do you take someone else’s word for it, instead of thinking for yourself? Putting someone else’s word above your own thinking is one of the most life damaging things you can do to yourself.  The following excerpt from my upcoming book, This...Read More

Voting is not just a once-in-a-while affair. You don’t just vote at the polls in November – you are voting every day and every minute of your life. With every choice you make, and every action you take, you are voting for what is most important to you and you are writing the “story” of...Read More

Do you let your fears and insecurities keep you from going after the things you want for your life? One of the biggest mistakes working women make is letting their fears keep them from being true to their highest values and most important goals. When you get all wrapped up in your worries, insecurities and fears,...Read More

Do you betray your own dreams in order to shape your life to the wishes of others? In the May 13, 1955 issue of Housekeeping Monthly Magazine, there was an article entitled “The Good Wife’s Guide.” It listed eighteen rules for being a good wife. Among these rules were: Listen to him….remember, his topics of conversation...Read More

Are you trying to live by an impossibe standard? Do you use an unreliable “measuring stick” for making your choices for your life? I can hear you now: “A measuring stick for my life? You’ve got to be kidding! What are you talking about?” I’m talking about having a way to measure whether a certain...Read More

Do you take full responsibility for your own life? Give yourself this RESPONSIBILITY TEST: Do you BLAME OTHERS for whatever goes wrong with your life? Do you CREDIT OTHERS for whatever goes right with your life? Do you DEPEND ON OTHERS to tell you what to do with your life? How did you do? This is important,...Read More

In order to love living your life, you need to take your life seriously, not just sometimes, but all the time. This is not a grim thing; this is a happy thing. It means truly caring for yourself by thinking about the kind of person you want to be, the kinds of things you want to...Read More

So many of us are brought up to believe we must choose between helping ourselves by brutishly walking all over others or helping others by altruistically sacrificing ourselves. Selfishness is ruled out as an alternative by being equated with brutishness. We are taught that, since brutishness is bad, “being good” means “sacrificing yourself to others.” As a result, most...Read More

Want to be stress-free? Most of our stress comes from the hodge-podge, mish-mash of ideals and expectations we’ve accumulated since childhood. In order to make sense of the ideals and expectations that are running your life, try the following four steps: 1. IDENTIFY what your ideals and expectations actually are. What are your ideals for being a good...Read More

Just as our President delivers The State Of The Union address, it’s a good idea for you to periodically address the state of your own life. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to see how much you love living your life: Do you feel at home with the world, or do you feel uneasy...Read More