Worrying Wastes Your Life
Have you ever met a person who was worry-free? It’s pretty rare, I admit, but it is healthy to strive to become worry-free — or to at least “put worry in its place” — because then you can focus on doing the things you really want to do in your life.
Worrying can become a habit, and it is not something to be taken lightly because it can literally wreck your life. The saying, “I was worried sick,” is an honest statement because when you worry you work both your body and your mind into a turmoil, and that makes you worry more, and it just keeps snowballing until you are one big bundle of stress! You put your friends and family under the strain of having to continually reassure you, and, even worse, you feel paralyzed in moving toward your goals.
Some Things You Can Do To Stop Worrying
Here’s what I have found helps me stop worrying:
1. Sort out the things you can change from those you cannot change:
- You can change the laws people make — but not the laws of nature.
- You can change yourself — but not others.
2. Ask yourself if your worries are warranted. Inform yourself of the facts of the matter.
3. Concentrate on the things you can change. Don’t even think about the things you cannot change. Consciously tell yourself that they are not worth your time or attention.
4. Act to alleviate the causes of your worries. If you’re worried about not having the right skills, seek out knowledgeable people or take courses to get the training you need. If you have money worries, discover a better way to manage your finances. If you have relationship worries, be sure your relationships are positive and built on mutual respect, and discover how to become a better communicator. If you have health worries, see a doctor and make the lifestyle changes you need to make.
Focus On Your Values, Not Your Fears
As you can see from the above four steps, ACTION is the key to eliminating your worry. Once you’ve assessed the validity of your worry and done all you can do to alleviate the causes of your worry, then turn your focus fully on your goals and go after them! Once you get excited over striving for the things that really matter to you, you won’t have time to sit around worrying yourself sick…you’ll be too busy making things happen for your life!